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Writing and Delivering a Eulogy, a PDF guide

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The son, daughter, spouse, sibling, grandchild, friend or colleague who has been asked to say a few words at a funeral, a memorial or a celebration of life.

The free examples show you one eulogy; this guide teaches you to write your own, and to say it. Forty questions to find the stories, a structure with the number of words for three or five minutes, eight complete eulogies annotated by relationship, the hard cases, and what to do if your voice breaks.

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  • 25pages
  • 8complete annotated examples
  • 2letters and scripts to adapt
  • 5tables and worksheets
  • 8checkboxes

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What you will be able to do

  • Know how long to speak, how many words that means, and who to ask before you write.
  • Find the stories with forty questions, a message to send to the family, and four filters to choose the right one.
  • Build the speech in five parts, with the word count for each part at three and five minutes, a one-evening plan, openings, endings and ten cuts for the editing pass.
  • See it done: eight complete eulogies annotated by relationship ("why it works", "make it yours").
  • Handle the hard cases: a difficult relationship, a sudden death, a suicide, speaking for the whole family, humor.
  • Say it: the reading copy, a rehearsal plan from the first draft to the morning of, the backup reader, two public-domain readings to pair with it.

Who it is for, and who it is not for

For you if you want the words to be yours, and you would like a method and good examples rather than a template to fill in.

Not for you if you need a finished text tonight without writing anything: the personalized eulogy is made for that.

What makes it different

Free advice usually stops at "share a story and keep it short". Paid eulogy books often give many examples and little method. This guide does both, with timings calculated at the same calm pace as our free eulogy length calculator, and a full chapter on the moment people fear most: standing up and saying it.

The complete table of contents

The real table of contents of the guide, with its page numbers.

  1. What a eulogy has to dop. 5Three things a good eulogy does · How long to speak · Ask before you write
  2. Finding the storiesp. 7Forty questions · Asking the family · Choosing: four filters
  3. Building the eulogyp. 9The five-part structure · The one-evening plan · Writing for the ear · Openings · Endings · The editing pass: ten cuts
  4. Complete examples, annotatedp. 12
  5. When it is complicatedp. 17If the relationship was difficult · If the death was sudden or young · If the death was a suicide · If you are asked at the last minute · If you are speaking for the whole family · If the audience is mixed · Humor
  6. The reading copyp. 19
  7. Delivering itp. 20The rehearsal plan · In the room · If your voice breaks
  8. Readings to pair with a eulogyp. 21Choosing a reading
  9. Worksheets to printp. 23Memory sheet · Outline sheet · Final checklist · Notes
  10. Sourcesp. 25

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In pictures

Reading glasses resting on a notepad beside a keyboard
Reading glasses resting on a notepad beside a keyboard. Photo: Artsy Crafty, CC0 1.0
The nave of a Gothic church with wooden pews and stained-glass windows
The nave of a Gothic church with wooden pews and stained-glass windows. Photo: Skitter Photo, CC0 1.0
Thin prayer candles burning in a dark church
Thin prayer candles burning in a dark church. Photo: Freestocks.org, CC0 1.0

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Cover of the PDF guide "Writing and Delivering a Eulogy"
Writing and Delivering a Eulogy
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A complete method to write a eulogy yourself and say it: 40 memory questions, a five-part structure with word counts, complete annotated eulogies by relationship, difficult situations, a large-print reading copy, a rehearsal plan and what to do if your voice breaks.

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Common questions

Does the guide contain eulogies I can read as they are?

It contains eight complete annotated eulogies (father, mother, grandmother, grandfather, spouse, friend, sister, colleague), written for the guide with invented people. They are models of construction: the guide shows you how to put your own memories in their place.

How long should a eulogy be?

If nobody gives you a time, aim for three to five minutes. The guide uses a calm pace of 140 words per minute, so about 420 words for three minutes and 700 for five, with the word budget for each part of the speech.

What if I cry while reading?

A full chapter covers delivery: the large-print reading copy, the rehearsal plan, the backup reader, and what to do when your voice breaks. The room is on your side.

What if I would rather have it written for me?

That is what the personalized eulogy on TributePen does, from your own answers. This guide is for those who want to write it themselves.

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